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eHarmony Review

A hugely popular site that brings people together through compatibility matching. The ideal site if for those who prefer a helping hand.

eHarmony ScreenshotThe way we see it at the Which Online Dating office, there are two types of daters out there. There are those who are driven by their ideals: they know exactly what they want, who they’re looking for and what his or her credentials and characteristics should be. They go to a dating site with a clear idea of what they’re searching for so don’t need much guidance or hand holding. And then there are those people who are not completely sure or are more flexible about who their ideal match really is. They need some help looking, they want to be pointed in the right direction, maybe they even believe that the great big unknowns of “fate” or “destiny” could step in and guide them to that one and only match. Whatever the reason, we believe that eHarmony was created for those types of daters and is why it’s been so successful for so many years.

A matchmaking service based on who you are and what you want

Really, if you find online searching a bit exhausting and going through hundreds of profiles a waste of time and energy, why don’t you let the system do the work for you? It really is ingenious the way eHarmony picks out matches for you and from our own extensive experience we can assure you: they will try and match you with compatible dates, taking into consideration what it is that you’re looking for in that special someone and what kind of characteristics are important to you. All you have to do, is go through the selected profiles (there will be a small bunch of them delivered to you daily) and decide if and who you would like to contact them.

eHarmony takes the search out of online dating and does it for you

There’s no search at eHarmony. That’s right – you can’t just browse through all the profiles and pick out the cherries. How does it work then? Well, basically it all boils down to creating your profile just right. That involves answering a variety of relationship questions about the things you like and dislike in a partner, your interests, values, habits, beliefs etc. On the basis of this, the computer creates a sort of “ideal match” for you and all the users will be compared against it to find the closest matches to what your preferences are. According to e-Harmony, they take into account 29 different dimensions of compatibility and have based this system on 35 years of clinical research.

Creating your profile and communicating on eHarmony

Creating your profile will take a bit of time but consider it time well spent. A truly comprehensive and thorough profile won’t just make it that much easier for the system to pair you up, but the paying customers with the Total Connect plan will also provide you with a deep analysis profile. There are a lot of boxes to tick and a lot of spaces where to write in as well but the result will be worth it, so we suggest you invest some time in it. It sounds daring, but it’s actually pretty straightforward, quite easygoing and very concise. If you look at other people’s profiles later, you will get a better idea of how the whole thing looks on your profile page and can also take your time and work out the best answers to questions you consider most important. The profiles are amazingly easy to read – while they actually hold a lot of information, they are not cluttered and overpowering. After all – what you want is a person in a nutshell not a philosophical essay on someone’s beliefs and values.

That said, eHarmony isn’t only for all the “serious daters” out there, looking for a husband or wife to spend eternity with. You don’t have to be dead serious about every question if you don’t want to. Remember: your page says a lot about you and in eHarmony it will be your only chance to spark that first glitch of interest. So if you choose to be playful rather than go by the book you will probably only gain by it.

While there is no search, there are still several options that make the site more interesting to you once you have had your first matches delivered to you. You can either start talking to them through the secure eHarmony email right away (and they even provide you with a short list of possible things to talk about – your similarities and such like) or you can send them an icebreaker or a set of multiple-choice questions of your own choosing. It’s really up to you how you want to approach getting to know them, but if taking that first step is hard for you, eHarmony will certainly extend their hand to you to help.

eHarmony Secure Call and ID veridication features

Another absolutely great feature is eHarmony’s Secure Call feature. For a small extra fee of $5.95 a month for Basic subscription users or a big fat nothing for Total Connect Plan users you can request a phone call with your match and speak to them on your own home or mobile without having to reveal your phone number.

E-Harmony isn’t one of those hi-tech websites that have all kinds of different web and video chat options available with tons of extra features to play with. Nope, it’s pretty basic but it’s got one huge advantage: it is very trustworthy. Because of the way it’s been geared up, you can rest assured that there are very few timewasters here. Your money and time are well invested and they even offer an ID-verification to Total Connect Plan subscribers, which verifies your name, city and age so your matches really know you exist. And vice versa.

The biggest disadvantage eHarmony has, is that it doesn’t offer much for non-paid clients. You can create your profile and even receive matches but you don’t see their profile photos and cannot start a proper conversation with them. It’s not the cheapest site either but every now and then they do have free communication weekends when you can see and talk to any matches on the site, so if you’re not really sure eHarmony is for you, we advise you keep your eyes open for a free weekend and really take advantage of that. Check our Online Dating Blog for the latest eHarmony offers and updates.

Pros and Cons

Good If you’re serious about online dating but don’t really know what exactly you’re looking for, the site will do half the work for you.
Bad There is not a lot you can do if you don’t like any of the matches the system finds for you (but how likely is that?). No option to sign up for 1 month.


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Website Ratings

How well did eHarmony rate in key areas?

Popularity 10
Design 8
Ease of Use 9
Value for Money 7
Profiles 8
Search N/A
Total 85%

Membership Prices

How much does it cost to sign up?

Free to Register & Browse Yes
3 month membership $137.85
6 months membership $209.70
12 months membership $287.40

Site Features

What extra features does the site have?

Email Members Yes
Personality Testing Yes
Upload Multiple Photos Yes
See Who's Viewed You Yes
Last Online Status Yes
Search By Proximity No
Chat/Instant Messaging Yes
Confidential Phone Chat Yes
Block Unwanted Contact Yes
Video/Webcam No